The book A Widow’s Story: A Memoir by Joyce Carol Oates is a powerful story about the author’s journey after the death of her husband of 47 years. The book told from Mrs. Oates point of view gives insight on how painful and gut wrenching it is to lose your significant other. The book told in chronological order starts with the moments leading up to the death and the year that follows. The book includes some sentimental flashbacks, emails and letters along the way. The story has no alternative motives but to provide the reader with an in depth look into the life of a grieving widow. The book connects on an emotional level, creating a sense of realism that helps the reader feel and go through this pain with the author.

Oates gives a personal account of what she had to go through after her husband’s death. The book is told as a narrative, and provides inner dialogue and thoughts the author had at those moments. She succeeds in taking the audience on a emotional roller coaster as she tries to figure out how to move on and keep her life together. From this she raises an important question, who am I? She has been married 47 years and associates herself as a wife and a writer. The death of her husband shakes this very foundation and forces her to reflect on her relationship and the man she married.
Throughout the story you get a sense that the author isn’t a very open and is a guarded person. You can see this in the way she responds to the letters after her husband died. But this story is the complete opposite of that, she allows the audience into every aspect of her grief and pain to convey this emotional story. Her struggle to come to terms that her husband is actually lost can be seen with this quote, “ I must stop dwelling upon the past, which can’t be altered. I must stop hearing these teasing, taunting voices- Is my husband alive?” (228) This struggle carries on with her throughout the book and causes her to avoid his study and her incapability to move his things.

This book had me from page one, the way she is able to convey her pain and carry that same emotion throughout the whole story is astonishing. Every page is littered with emotions and every story she tells are too heartfelt and heart breaking to be fictional. She provided a looking glass so that her audience can see into a life of a grieving widow. What makes this story work is that is relatable, everyone goes through loss, I’ve been through loss, and it remains one of the hardest things a person has to go through. What Oates accomplishes is that she makes her story accessible to everyone, at some point in the story whether you lost a wife, or father, or friend you can relate to the emotions that she is going through. What happens in the story is real and it feels that way when you read it. Adding the letters and emails to the story contribute to overall feel of the story but what found really interesting and enjoyed are the little segments at the end of each chapter. She refers to herself as the “widow” and speaks in third person. The reason I really enjoyed this is because it allowed for self-evaluation, she was able to take herself out of her own personal sorrow and reflect and comment on her actions and thoughts as if someone else. This just added another dynamic to the story that I don’t really see in stories about death. This one of the most emotional stories I have ever read, I highly recommend it to anyone who is willing to take that ride with her.







